In that context I'll temper my answers to you somewhat - if you are hiking with a partner/fiancee that tent (at 5 lbs) if you split the weight between the two of you
(one carrying the tent, the other carrying something else) isn't so bad - yes you could
be a lot lighter with something like a 2 person tarptent, but I suspect you can find more
weight saving in your clothing and other areas, and likely without spending as much ching.
A hammock is likely not as attractive if you're couples hiking,

Don't go stoveless, just change what kind of stove you take, caveat the food you
are taking. At that point I'd say you might be able to ditch the hatchet as long as you
can do the stove thing if you don't have good firemaking foo <img src="/forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

and don't feel bad about buying the dragonfly - its a very good winter or group stove. while I take an alky when I'm solo or in a pair, If I'm in a larger group (where we share a stove, and the weight of it) or in winter time I still take an MSR whisperlight or svea stove.
and to be fair, it'll cost you about 40 bucks to go buy a pocket rocket at MEC as a lighter
weight stove option. Dig here and google a bit if you wanna learn about homeade alcohol
stoves.

Try the tape trick - with your fiancee. (only on the gear in your backpacks, not each other)