You didn't post in the wrong place. What "this is a lightweight forum" means is that most of us who post regularly at backpacking.net are into "hiking light", carrying less than 15 (at most 20) pounds of gear (excluding food and water) when we hike; personally, I'm at about 12 - 15, depending on season. So, our advice is going to be biased in favor of lighter, more technical, and more expensive gear.

However, we all remember starting out right where you are, and looking for decent gear on a budget. There's nothing wrong with that - just remind us that you're on a budget and willing to carry more weight when you ask for recommendations, and we'll adjust for that.

Hang around here long enough, and we'll corrupt you, too!