I am sorta in the same boat as you. I like my hammock, but my wife wants to sleep next to me. I have a BA insulated air core that works much better than any self-inflator. However, my wife, who has ample hips and side sleeps, wants a little more. So, I plan to buy her the Exped downmat 9 this Christmas. She has tried it out at REI and liked it.
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