There's really no need to figure out where you stand in relation to other backpackers in terms of weight or some imaginary scale of ultralight-to-ultraheavy. Concentrate on taking exactly what you need and no more.

To figure out exactly what you need takes time and experience, but Samoset's advice is an excellent place to start. Stuff you didn't use is immediately suspect as being unnecessary, especially if it was there "just in case" and you can't think of a plausible scenario where it could save your life.

One place where most people could cut back on weight are changes of clothes. You'll need enough clothes to stay warm enough, a change of sox, and probably very little else. Clean sox count as necessary because dirty ones promote blisters and other foot problems you don't want; just wash the pair you aren't wearing and wear them the next day. By contrast, dirty pants are not a big problem; everything you wear gets dirty soon enough. More than that is a luxury that comes with an obvious luxury tax: extra weight.

Once you have a clear picture of what type and amount of stuff is really necessary for a hike, you can slowly replace heavy versions of that stuff with lighter versions. That's the stage where hikers become gearheads, but it is not a stage you need to enter right away. Where you are now, the most important thing is just to get out there, to enjoy and learn. Gear is only there to facilitate that enjoyment, not create it.

Have fun!