It is possible that there is only one way of using poles in any situation that maximizes their effectiveness in that particular situation. But maximum effectiveness is not always required (unless you are an athlete in competition), so, if it doesn't feel natural or normal, then I would say drop back to what might be less effective but comfortable.

Having said that, when I do see hikers on local trails with trekking poles, the chances are about 50% that the poles are adding nothing at all to their hiking experience, except style points. These hikers just sort of move the poles randomly and don't even put weight or stress onto the poles at any point in their stride. They may as well be waving them in the air for all the good it does them.