You are a gallant husband! It is the opposite for me- I get to carry most of the group gear. Goes like this - hubby: my pack is so much heavier! me: I wonder why? hubby: uh, I am bigger and my clothes therefor weigh more. Trailhead: I have about 3/4 group gear. First night: out comes hubby's fishing gear, binoculars, leather wallet, big knife, NOOK reader, 2-pound Tevas, etc. Oh, well, at least my pack weighs less every day as we eat food. We are out here together and that is what counts! It is not about how you divide the weight -but how much you enjoy each other.