I did indeed say that Jimshaw - though it wasn't my point. My point that everyone has their own needs and expectations, and sometimes they change.

Heck I was married at 20... I had some growing up to do, like Bill said . I needed to learn that I could deal on my own (which because I was lucky and met "the" guy early (15) I didn't learn sooner.) It would have been life threatening if I had lost him during that time - and I don't think it was healthy _for me_.

However, I do think some people can handle their "new" wife or husband hiking for 5 months - and I think I probably could have, had I been married later in life.