Huh?

I agree with Lori (married to my first and only husband ) for ... (gets the calculator out) 16 1/2 years (together for 22 years.)

My contract (obviously not writen) with my husband about... well everything... changes periodically. First 10 years the contract was I would freak if he was gone longer than overnight. Now... yawn - 3 weeks, whatever - I'm just not that clingy anymore. Does that mean our relationship is on the rocks, nope - just different. And that is the key word in this thread - Different - your milage may vary - hike your own hike... do what works for you and your SO. Does that make your advice any less useful? No - the OP can read all of this and formulate their own (hopefully workable) solution.

What this does mean, is looking at those years you posted, you just might be getting old <evil grin>