It seems to me for someone with "experience" you are asking too much about gear, particularly if you have already asked on three other forums! Make a detailed list on each trip you do, weigh everything, write down what you do not use each time. Repeat. Again, Again. Delete things that never get used. Try leaving something out on one trip - for example, leave home the bowl and eat directly out of the cook pot. Is this really that difficult? Hey, for short trips, forget cooking altogether and do trail food. Is this a horrible experience for you or OK? Experience will reveal your "generic list". Once you are happy with your gear, then as you have extra cash, gradually replace heavier gear with lighter. You can also learn a lot simply by going out with other people and observing their gear and how it performs. I think you lack confidence, not gear ideas.