Really?

It may not be very feminine of me, but I don't much worry about colors for gear. For clothes, I lean towards black, because it doesn't show dirt or stains easily and for modesty. Other colors are more see-through. My pack is the color it came in, the manufactuer's choice. Most of my stuff sacks are grey, because I got a deal on a bunch of grey silnylon. If I want to tell them a part easily, I use a different color drawstring. The one color I did go in search of was orange for my pack cover. I can use it for visiblilty in an emergency. Otherwise, I prefer to blend in.

YMMV.

CamperMom