I had a similar problem, ultimately solved by getting a Granite Gear Nimbus Ozone, as the straps can be adjusted wider or narrower, and up and down the frame as needed. You can have the manufacturer swap belt/straps as you like as well.
Unfortunate, the "ultralight" versions of mainline packs seem to lack the features that make packs fit people.
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