Personally, if I was planning to clean with sand, I would steer clear of anodized aluminum. You will eventually wear off the anodizing. I would look for a titanium pot, or a non-anodized aluminum pot, or a stainless pot.

My favorite "spork" design is the light my fire design with a fork on one side and a spoon on the other. I have the one in titanium and LOVE it. I have a bunch of the nylon versions and they are great as well.

With your specific criteria, you will have to buy the components separately.
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